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If your partner had an affair...
You are hurting, angry, confused, sad, or worse. Things don't make sense. Your world has been turned upside down by infidelity and you don't know what the truth is.
You may be wondering if your whole relationship has been a lie, whether you were foolish to ever trust your partner's love, how you could have missed the signs.
You may be obsessing over every detail, triggered by awful thoughts and images in your head, erupting into angry fits of yelling or crying, despair, longing or anguish.
The feelings of betrayal are so painful and so deep. It's hard to concentrate. You're worried about your family, your children. It's so complicated. It feels like there is no answer.
You just don't know what to do.
If you had an affair...
You may be feeling confused, guilty, sad, or angry. You may not have intended for this affair to happen, wondering how it did happen, feeling terrible and ashamed for having hurt your partner.
You want to put the infidelity behind you, stop talking about it, stop the hurt and the pain and all the fighting. Somehow, you want your marriage to survive this.
You're not sure how to answer your partner's questions, how to cope with the anger and the emotional upheaval. You're concerned about the future of your family, about your children, if there's any hope of reconciliation.
Or maybe you're having trouble ending the affair, saying goodbye, feeling pulled in two different directions.
There is hope...
Although it may seem unrealistic right now, research shows that the majority of relationships can survive infidelity, provided the affair is ended and both partners are willing to commit to a process of couples therapy or marriage counseling and do the work of healing.
I specialize in helping couples get on the right path and will guide you through specific steps toward healing, understanding what went wrong, and rebuilding trust, safety and security.
You'll learn what triggers the hurt partner's flashbacks and anger, and discover the tools to manage those moments as a couple, restoring peace and developing healthy, effective communication.
You'll learn how to deal with the pain, how to connect with each other in a way that builds closeness and connection and hope for the future.
You'll learn how and why the affair happened, and how to create the kind of emotional bond and connection that can fulfill you, protect you from infidelity in the future, and keep your relationship safe as you move forward together.
In fact, many of the couples I see discover that, after couples therapy or marriage counseling has been completed, their relationship is stronger, more intimate, and more rewarding and secure than it ever was before.
And the tools you learn in couples therapy can help you maintain a close, loving and fulfilling relationship for the rest of your lives.
"We started seeing Dr Zwerdling after our relationship hit rock bottom. We had been through lying, infidelity, lack of communication and trust and on the verge of throwing in the towel. We decided to give our relationship one last chance and started seeing Dr. Zwerdling. He was patient, understanding and direct. He allowed us to explore our feelings and emotions and be able to relate to one another again. He was able to get us to talk and share our feelings without resentment and truly understand each other. We are so much better due to the work with Dr Zwerdling has done with us. We would have never kept our relationship together without his guidance and advice."
"Dr. Zwerdling is a kind, compassionate man. He helped my husband and I get through a very dark time in our marriage of 42 years, with infidelity. I can say, I myself would not be where I am today if it wasn't for his knowledge and expertise. He makes you feel so comfortable with his soft manner... I would recommend Dr. Zwerdling to anyone who needs a comforting, knowledgeable voice."
"We are so thankful to Dr. Zwerdling for helping us to keep our cherished family together, and even more for providing us the tools to connect as a couple and recommit to each other as partners in life. His support has given us the strength to express ourselves more fully and to begin to understand a deeper love and appreciation for the other. We are grateful to him for his role in our greatest gifts… the renewal of our marriage, the rediscovery of our love, and our family remaining together. "
When one partner in a committed relationship turns to someone else as their primary source of emotional support and personal sharing, whether in-person or on-line, that is called an emotional affair. Many partners find that the pain and betrayal of an emotional affair is equal to or even greater than a sexual affair. An emotional or online affair is a signal that it is time to get help, that the relationship is in trouble. Whatever is causing one partner to turn away and seek comfort elsewhere must be addressed before the damage to the relationship worsens.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is commonly regarded as the most effective approach to couples therapy and marriage counseling available today. Evidence based, it has been shown to be successful in helping couples recover from affairs and infidelity using a specific model that gets to the core of the healing process. As the first fully certified EFT therapist in Monmouth County, I can help you find your way from anger, confusion and despair to sanity, security and forgiveness.
"My husband and I were in a really bad place and Dr. Zwerdling was able to help us reconnect. My husband was leery about going, but Dr. Zwerdling put him at ease and helped us both feel that our points of view were important. In a very gentle and compassionate way, Dr.Zwerdling helped us to express loving feelings for each other that we had not shared for a long time. We are much closer now, communicate better and appreciate each other in a way that we have not for years. We are both so thankful for all that Dr. Zwerdling has done for us. We never dreamed our marriage could be what it is today."
"Thanks to Dr. Zwerdling, my wife and I are doing great. We are married now, and have the most precious gift, a brand new baby girl. If he had not come along to help us at the critical time in our lives, we would not be as happy as we are right now. His professionalism and patience with me has helped me grow and helped my wife forgive me for my terrible mistakes. Together, we are happier than we have ever been, and we definitely owe much of it to Dr. Zwerdling."
Dr. Alan Zwerdling's private office serves all of Monmouth County & the Jersey Shore, including Red Bank, Middletown, Shrewsbury, Rumson, Navesink, Fair Haven, Little Silver, Holmdel, Colts Neck, Ocean Township, Lincroft, Marlboro, Manalapan, Oceanport, Monmouth Beach, Spring Lake, Sea Girt, Manasquan, Oakhurst, Eatontown, Tinton Falls, and West Long Branch.
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